The last thing I want to do is give you a bullshit blog about things I’m grateful for, because that’s overdone. This time of year has always been riddled with drama, alcohol, and tears. Come to think of it I can’t remember a holiday that didn’t leave some stink behind in its path. I can’t imagine this year being any different with people in my family avoiding each other and avoiding me included. For whatever dumb fuck reasons they may have.
This year overall I’ve come to a conclusion that people who are in relationships they don’t want to be in, are out of their fucking mind. Seriously, I don’t get it. In the name of the season, I pledge allegiance to keepin it fuckin real. I would never be with anyone who makes me even remotely unhappy in anyway.
I don’t know if this is because I’ve written a lot of romance stories, because I’ve done a lot people watching in my years, because I’ve read a lot of trashy novel or maybe it’s because I have a low tolerance for bullshit. But a relationship between you and your spouse is the one thing in this world that you have some control over. You can’t pick your family, some friends are friends of convenience and I’m not here to judge people on that either, frankly I hang out with people I like. If I don’t fucking hang out with you, chances are I don’t fucking like you.
Now I know what you thinking … If only there was a way to voice a highly uneducated opinion to thousands of people on a regular basis. Shut the fuck up, I have no illusions that thousands of people read this blog. In fact, I’d be surprised if three people do.
What I am saying is that I think social media as enabled us to be independent enough where we settle for being unhappy.
As a writer when I write my stories I leave social media out of it and I think you'll notice that in many cases lot of writers do the same. Why? Because it has killed the romance it has taken away the does he or doesn't he? The what is she thinking? The want to get to know someone when you stalk them on the internet.
In the past without Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or whatever the fuck else is out there it was just you and that person. Alone. Sitting in your apartment, bored out of your mind. You probably went out more, you socialized more with people on a face to face level. It's pretty easy to pick out a “soul mate” when you’re shifting though options of people on a daily basis.
Now think of life today. You’re home with that person your splitting the rent with and instead of being force to learn something about them, like them, talk to them, show a little affection or even make an attempt to get attention… you turn to your phone.
You’re posting a sexy selfie, hoping for a lot of likes. You’re posting some emo babble and people you don’t know are consoling you. Our emotional needs are being met by screens, not people, because let’s get real how much emotion can you get outta of a winky face and some other well place punctuation marks.
You don’t need those emotional attachments with that person because you can get them somewhere else. You’re not meeting people face to face and learning about people as they are but rather as the selfies and quotes they’re posting stagically for your pleasure. We live in the age were you run into "I don't watch TV" proudly says a person who spends 8 hours a day on the internet.
I’m not saying my relationship is perfect. I’d never say that. I contemplate murder just as much as I greet him at the door with a sexy guess what we’re gonna do smile. Relationships are like that. But you know what they’re not like? Frustration, looking for a way out, feeling trapped or feeling ignored.
Look all I'm gonna leave you with is that our grandparents, our parents the crazy couples who are celebrating 60 or 80 years of marriage... no social media. Not saying to give it up I'm just saying if you're unhappy... know that you deserve more.